Just 3 weeks ago, I was in a gay party hosted by the Fabcasters. It was my first ever all-gay party I’ve ever attended in my life although I have been to parties with mixed lgbt crowd. This time, only 3 girls were there, one was Ruby (the admitted fag hag) and us, the only lesbian couple. I really appreciated the fact that a lot of the gays there approached us and had enjoyable conversations with them. Although most of us were already drunk because of Soju, the conversations were interesting. The most common theme that they asked us, as a lesbian couple was that “How do you make the relationship stronger?”. When they learned that my girlfriend and I had been together for almost 3 years, a shocking reaction was anticipated by us. These gays would usually tell us that, it’s not really common among gay relationships to have relationships longer than a few months. I asked myself why, is it because of pre-determined biological explanations?
I would like to believe that it’s not only biological pre-determinations that define how one is behaving, no matter what their gender or sexual preference is. Although coming from the Sociological background, I would like to believe that there is a balance between the social and biological influences. Many say that gays are more inclined to lust than love. I don’t want to generalize here but this was some of the stereotypes I hear about gays. On the other hand, lesbians are biologically women and prioritize emotions rather than lust. So I was just wondering what if we let go of the stereotypes and just live and love as how we want to be? I just wonder.