In the heterosexual sense, there is such thing called gender roles. It is assigned to each individual and the individual is expected to act on the assigned role for example being masculine and feminine. Gender roles are there, because according to some people, it places things “in order”. When gender roles are not followed, then there is chaos, i.e. confusion.
In the LGBT circle, most especially in the lesbian circle ( because that’s where I belong), there are still gender roles. Most people I meet would always ask me “So, who’s the playing the feminine or masculine role between the 2 of you?”. Well, I always had a butch girlfriend (whether hardcore butch or soft butch) not because I want to have portray specific gender roles but because it happened as it is. But with that question being asked to me, I would usually say “I am the more feminine because I tend to dress girly sometimes”. Continue reading “Butch to butch, femme to femme, butch to femme: is it really an issue?”